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What Makes a good Paragraph or sermon

There is no mystery about what makes good paragraph

• orderliness,
• coherence,
• completeness, and
• unity.

Stylistically, these four attributes are usually accomplished by concrete topic
sentences and smooth logical connections among ideas. Within paragraphs, writers usually
connect ideas, thereby creating coherence and orderliness, by using combinations of the four
methods described below. Capital letters indicate the words that help to establish the exact
connections.
Topic Sentences
Most paragraphs need to have topic sentences. Remember that topic sentences come in many
forms and need not be the first sentences in paragraphs. However, if you have a paragraph that
must be tidied up or you are composing a paragraph from scratch, writing a clear topic sentence
as an opening statement is a good way to start.
Topic sentences can take a number of forms. They often simply provide a general statement for
the paragraph to support


The following can make some Good characteristics of a preachers sermon...

1. A good sermon comes from the Bible. Okay, obviously. Why state the obvious? Because this remains the most important part of preaching and many behind the pulpit fail to do it today. The Bible is not to be used as a launching pad for the preacher to say what he wants to say, as a proof text to support a pre-conceived idea he spawned, nor as a pulpit decoration. The message of the text—the point God was making through the human author—is to be the point of the sermon. To get to this the preacher must ask, "What was the biblical author trying to say?" and when he finds the answer that is the point of the message that should be preached.
2. A good sermon has hammered the preacher all week. When the preacher enters the pulpit as a man who labored over, wept over, was broken by, fueled by, and filled with the joy of the passage all week long, his sermon is real and the people can tell.
3. A good sermon is set on fire by the Holy Spirit. Sometimes the greatest sermon notes from the best orators have fallen like snow on a cold day while mediocre sermon manuscripts from lightweight preachers have turned masses to repentance and spawned revival. How the sermon impacts the people is a work entirely dependent on the Holy Spirit, and the Spirit alone can breathe life into the preacher's sermon and make it fly. In no way am I discouraging hard study.
   
4. A good sermon is contemporary. To some, this may seem like a contradiction to the first point, but it's not. A contemporary sermon does not mean the text has in any way been shielded or diluted. A contemporary sermon simply means that the sermon is packaged in such a way that people of today can immediately understand, relate to, and know how to respond to the message. Two preachers can preach on God's holiness and both deliver the exact truth with complete accuracy and yet one audience walks out with questions bouncing around in their head while the other walks out convicted to the bone but rejoicing that Christ is their holiness. What made the difference? The first preacher was accurate and ancient. The second preacher was accurate and contemporary. Preaching an ancient text does not require preaching with an ancient style. A preacher may be accurate, but if he has failed to connect with his audience and to show them the relevance of God's timeless Word, he is doing injustice to God's people and to the Word of God. His congregation would be better off staying home and reading commentaries, since after all, that's all he is, an accurate, precise, boring, droner who cares more for his studies than the people. But a good preacher knows his sheep just as Jesus does john 10, and he knows their struggles, their pains, and their needs, and he speaks to them in a way that makes them laugh, weep, smile, and even get angry.
5. A good sermon is Christ-centered. This is very helpful for crafting an outline and communicating the passage practically and clearly. But it's only halfway. The preacher must show how that text fits into the bigger theme of the redemptive theme of Scripture and how it points to Christ. Every text ultimately finds its fulfillment in Jesus. If I preach three keys for holy living, many believers may go home trying hard to apply those three keys as if God's acceptance level will increase with their performance. And an unbeliever may walk out thinking: "So that's what it means to be a Christian. Obey rules and be a better person." If the sermon I preach would be readily accepted in a Jewish synagogue, Islamic mosque, or Hindu temple, we've got a problem. Christ-centered preaching includes two things: First, it shows how the text fits into the big theme of redemptive history. For example, although Joseph's flight from Potiphar's wife serves as an excellent lesson in fleeing sexual sin, the redemptive theme behind this story is how God uses Joseph's faithfulness to get him into prison, to raise him up as second ruler of Egypt, to preserve his family, to preserve the line of Judah through whom Christ will come. Second, the Christ-centered sermon shows the listener that the only way he can possibly apply the message is if He's redeemed by Jesus and empowered by Jesus. He must see that Jesus not only demonstrated perfect faithfulness to God but died for all the times the believer failed to obey Him.
6. A good sermon shows love and sensitivity for the lost. I don't mean we should refuse to talk about sin, repentance, and hell. Nor do I mean we should ignore people's eternal needs and just pacify the felt ones. If Jesus talked about these things, how could we not? But as you prepare your message ask yourself: What are the most typical unbeliever objections to these principles?
7. A good sermon relates to the audience. This is similar to point #4 but is so important it warrants its own paragraph. Notice how good preachers almost always begin by relating to their audience through natural humor, a personal story, or even sharing a struggle he encountered this last week. Another key time for doing this is when telling a personal story to illustrate something in the text. This gives your flock a chance to get to know you a little better. When a preacher is open and personal, he emulates Paul's example all through 2 Corinthians. Paul never feared being transparent about his deepest struggles with his own churches. When a preacher is afraid to be transparent it may signal a heart of pride. I'm not saying spill your dirty laundry for all the congregation. Do that and you're no longer leading. But don't be afraid to let people know you bleed when you get cut, sneeze when you inhale pepper, and yell when you stub your toe. After all, your family knows the real you and if you try to don the "spiritual" coat for Sunday morning your family will pick up on the hypocrisy and some day imitate or resent it.
8. A good sermon is delivered with excellent communication. Taking a speech class, reading books on good speaking, video-taping his messages and watching them are some of the best investments a preacher can make. No matter how accurate he is (and accuracy matters!) if the preacher is not interesting, people won't enjoy listening to him. What good does it do to be accurate if your audience is asleep? And if a preacher is boring, what does his example teach his audience about the message of God's Word? A preacher must do all he can to communicate it to be clear and interesting.
9. A good sermon is God-fueled. The preacher invites his audience into the passage to see the heart of God and His passion for His glory as the text slowly unfolds. The preacher is so consumed with God's character displayed in the text that he can't help but tremble at the awesome holiness of His majesty. If this is real it will never be something the preacher does by affectation. It will come out naturally. He will smell like God, speak as one who stands in God's presence, and bring the people into the holy of holies to be undone by the presence of God until their hearts respond in shouts of praise and worship.
10. A good sermon builds community. The traditional American approach to Christianity for years focused on one's personal faith at the expense of the value of community with other believers. Individualism most certainly had a hand in this. But today, many preachers are recapturing the heart of community by letting their sermons paint a picture of what happens when an entire community of people grow and change together.

Do you love others more than you love youself? Or are you so much in love with self?

SaSa Nyinyi ma nyimine zangu na mandugu zangu you have to get this from my point of view why I must learn to love the fool in me the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries You remember the traditional bible teachings ..? (Leave alone the pius 4 prezzo and saints of later dayys) You are told to love your neighbour as yourself. How do you love yourself? When I look into my own mind, I find that I do not love myself by thinking myself a dear old chap or having affectionate feelings. I do not think that I love myself because I am particularly good, but just because I am myself and quite apart from my character. I might detest something which I have done. Nevertheless, I do not cease to love myself. In other words, that definite distinction that Christians make between hating sin and loving the sinner is one that you have been making in your own case since you were born. You dislike what you have done, but you don't cease to love yourself. You may even think that you ought to be hanged. You may even think that you ought to go to the Police and own up and be hanged. Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained.

I think we need to consider Don Miguel Ruiz view on self love "You can measure the impeccability of your word by your level of self-love. How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself are directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word. When you are impeccable with your word, you feel good; you feel happy and at peace. You can transcend the dream of hell just by making the agreement to be impeccable with your word. Right now I am planting that seed in your mind. Whether or not the seed grows depends upon how fertile your mind is for the seeds of love. It is up to you to make this agreement with yourself: I am impeccable with my word. Nurture this seed, and as it grows in your mind, it will generate more seeds of love to replace the seeds of fear. This first agreement will change the kind of seeds your mind is fertile for."


Any comment? Adhiambo......................

Valentine Tips

People here is Valentine the Day Gifts and its impact
Creative ideas on Valentine's Day gifts for him and her, beyond the usual candies and diamonds. -Yah in Kenya we have shining plastics/fibre glass Valentine's Day gift ideas can drive many a man and woman up the wall. What do you get the person that means most to you, that does not look like it is cheap or plain un-unique ... and fitted your budget too.

Here are some Ideas which have been researched on I just hope it would work on you to give your love life a glow on this Day of st Valentino
Valentine day gift ideas that that will make your life change for ever

• A ticket to a game - Yes both men and women find this fun. So much better than a box of mass produced chocolates or a diamond so small that you would need a magnifying glass to see it. This can make your day, followed by a meal together! You have something to share and remember, ‘cause love is also building memories of the fun times together!

• Funky jewelry cheap plastic blings r available in EA – Sweetheart lockets, bracelets, rings – engraved with your names or a special saying. It could be the lines of your favorite song.

• Unique Chocolates – Those with liqueur, or coffee, or even mint fillings. These had better be different from the standardized cadbury stuff brought from the store on the way to work. Interesting handmade paper wrapping or oboke siala, should add to the glamour.

• Bedroom accessories – Sexy and comfortable - Egyptian cotton bedspreads(Rem. Song of solomon e muma), with matching pillowcases and more. Dress up the bedroom that day, flowers, candles and some perfume should make the day special.

• A hamper filled with special things – perfume and lip balm to chocolates, movies to video games whatever makes it special. Things that have significance for the person you wish to gift this hamper collected and packed beautifully together.

• Traditional or Herbal Tea (Majand lum) – In today’s life we could do with the best. Chinese green tea, Darjeeling or Chamomile to soothe the nerves are just some of the suggested ones.

• A visit to a spa – Now this would a real treat, a weekend getaway to a spa, combining togetherness and rejuvenation in a relationship A small timeout with friends – This can be so much fun and a great pressure buster.

• If you are a busy couple, quality time together – A visit to a picnic(something 4om uhuru park to teas villas), or a dinner together in a nice restaurant could refresh things. In this busy age, we do need to find time for each other.

• Lingerie – Men think beyond sexy! Think comfy and sexy! You are buying a gift for the person you love. There is lot of good stuff out there.

• Personalized poetry makes a great valentine day gift idea Roses have bloomed redder for the lovers, and poems written from the heart have sounded more poetic. It has to express the joy of togetherness. If poetry is difficult, then simply write a note that expresses your love and the way you feel. You can write it with a specially framed photograph of the two of you.
  

Love has so many aspects, so buy or make something special for all your friends and family. These could be as simple as calling them over for a good time so that no one feels alone on this day. There is so much of pressure on “togetherness” on this particular day that those who have had recent break ups and losses may feel incredibly lonely.

V day gifts are simply a way to express what you perhaps find difficult to say in words. Three simple words to a mate, lover or friend, “I love you” - the gift can say it all!




Hey Ladies have you ever been in a dilemma what present to give your hubby on a valentine Day ?
If you are in a type of relationships where each partner has a time to treat the other and this 2009 valentine Day is your turn? You can take him to a movie of his choice, buy his dinner at his favorite restaurant, take him to a concert by a band he likes, etc...

You also have to take into account what he likes and what his hobbies are. If he's a music buff, load his ipod with some songs that you think are meaningful to your relationship. If he's on a diet, don't buy him chocolates. he either won't eat them, or he will and then he'll feel guilty. If he's into outdoor sports, get him a giftcard . Everyone's different. Not all men are going to like the same things. But if you put thought into it and spend time with him on Valentine's Day, I'm sure he'll love whatever you get him.

Na machali je? I know you are less sensitive and never sense the impact of VALENTINE On your lollipops

To most men, Valentine's Day is the day you're supposed to buy flowers or candy for your wife or girlfriend. But to most women, Valentine's Day is about expressing your innermost feelings about someone. It's about saying how much you really value someone -- through the purchase of a material object, of course. Here's how to give Valentine's Day gifts she's bound to love.
He machali check out the steps
1.Think about the message you want to convey to her. Is it, "I think you're special", "You're so beautiful", or "I want to keep you guessing"? Whatever the message, there's an easy way to communicate it through your gift.
2.Match your gift to the message. This may sound easier said than done, but check down for tips
3.Get help from others. If you're just not sure how to express your feelings, get some advice from friends, parents or whomever you trust, but don't have some other person go gift shopping for your girl.
4.Consider the risk of getting your "hidden message" wrong. If anything about your idea could be misleading, don't go through with it. Take the safe route and keep it simple.
5.Just say it. More often than not, the whole "saying it through the grapevine"-thing backfires. In many cases the lady would have preferred some heartfelt kind words to a gift.(aheri ka nyuka gi rabuon , kibuonjo to ayuda heart attack )

Guys Let me give you a bit of tips on how to succeed on the above
If your message is "I spent big bucks on you", you can buy her jewelry(Not the plastic thing) or
go one step better than that by giving her the whole store (a set)
To convey that the lady is special to you, you could get her a customized
poem (although maybe a self-written one is more personal).
If you are in an intimate relationship and want to compliment her looks, you may want to think about getting her a lingerie. It is advised to find out nonchalantly if she would appreciate that as a gift, as some women feel objectified by this type of behavior.
If you're unsure about your message or your relationship, try to set up an unusual date. Try something your girl might like. If she's an outdoorsy person, pack a picnic to share at sunset and spend some time on the
blanket looking at the stars. This is especially romantic if you have a beach in the proximity.
If your girl is into arts, take her to an exhibition. Once there you can buy her a pussie or oyieyo mopaaa or a nice poster if she likes a piece very much. If she likes a certain band, get tickets to a concert near you.
If you don't know anything about a girl's hobbies or preferences, make sure you find out about them before Valentine's Day so you have some clues. you can build your idea on. Make a romantic scavenger hunt. Have romantic clues set up all over the house (or city), and make them search from place to place until they find the final prize (make sure the final prize is something extra special),